Dear Amy: My parents in their late 70s have no plans to get the COVID vaccine. We discussed this issue with respect, but I don’t expect to convince them to change their minds.
They have no underlying illness and live independently at home, hours away from us.
My child graduated in June. My husband and I have been vaccinated and our children (all subjects) will be vaccinated by then.
We invited our parents. They are excited because they haven’t seen each other for a year. They are with us and interact in our outdoor open house (with some of my other (possibly unvaccinated) brothers and sisters).
As a vaccine advocate, I’m afraid of the risks my parents are taking.
They feel it is their choice. It respects, but should it affect the planning of graduation events? Should it affect our future interactions?
— Disappointed daughter
Dear disappointment: I agree that your parents are taking risks on an unvaccinated trip. Not only do they endanger their own health, but if they become infected with the coronavirus while traveling, they can unknowingly spread the infection to others. As you know, vaccines protect people from the more serious illnesses caused by the virus.
If you stick to being with your peers (after all, you invited), planning an outdoor group event is safest for them and the other unvaccinated people they come in contact with. It seems like.
During the graduation and wedding season, there are many situations similar to yours.
All families should make their own best decisions about what to do according to current CDC and local guidelines.
Yes, your people have the right to refuse vaccinations. However, their rights do not supersede your rights.
I know a group that has vaccination as a condition of cohesion. If you were doing the same, you could have pressured people to get vaccinated.
In the short term, it is safer for you and other vaccinated families to travel to visit your family than to travel to visit you.
Dear Amy: My beloved sister, Karen, died less than a year after surgery complications. Her death was totally unexpected.
I have a big family and everyone is sad.
Recently, I found out that my daughter is pregnant and has a girl.
She wants to name her Karen after her beloved aunt.
Everyone in the family is honored with this gesture, but my daughter is now a privileged white woman with problems, demanding, racist, and in many ways uncomfortable. I’m afraid to embrace the little girl of that name because of the meme.
My sister was the opposite of Meme’s “Karen”.
Our family appreciates your opinion.
— Still in mourning
Dear Mourning: We apologize to your family for such a shocking loss.
Yes, don’t hesitate to name this child “Karen” by your parents. If you don’t want Karen to be your first name, you can use it as your middle name.
The “Karen” meme seems to come from comedian Dane Cook’s old routine, “Friends Nobody Likes.”
Don’t know (or don’t remember) who Dane Cook is?
A few years ago, he sold out Madison Square Garden. Well, not so much.
Spontaneous memes emerge from popular culture, and almost suddenly, memes change to another meaning and then disappear again — like Dane Cook’s career.
The actual living story of the beloved family and the memories with her last much longer, especially for the young man who bears her name.
I think it’s a great way to get this name back.
Dear Amy: You challenged “mother’s love” when she explained about her recent reunion with her daughter after many years of very long estrangement. She does not know why she became estranged and you are her Said he didn’t seem to believe.
I believe you have a duty to apologize to her and to the other parents of the estranged children!
Dear upset: I think it’s common to not know the reason for the estrangement, but the reason I challenged “Mother of Longing” was that after my daughter settled, I hesitated to discuss my disagreement with her.
The mother was afraid that talking about it (or “nuisance”) could create a new sense of alienation.
I thought of this as a continuous (and successful) effort for my daughter to control her.
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